Parashat Vayigash

Chapter 45;v.14

וַיִּפֹּל עַל־צַוְּארֵי בִנְיָֽמִן־אָחִיו וַיֵּבְךְּ וּבִנְיָמִן בָּכָה עַל־צַוָּארָֽיו

And he fell upon his brother Benjamin’s neck, and wept; and Benjamin wept upon his neck.

Rashi says that Joseph cried over the two Temples (in Nov and Givon) that would be built in the portion of Benjamin and ultimately be destroyed. Benjamin cried on Joseph’s neck for the tabernacle of Shilo that would be in Joseph’s future portion and would ultimately be destroyed.

At first glance, it would seem that Joseph should have wept about the tabernacle in Shilo that would be located in the area of his future inheritance, and Benjamin over the two Temples that were in his own portion! From this, Rabbi Yehezkel of Kozimir derived that a Jew should be troubled and weep over another’s misfortune more than his own. Even if one can accept suffering with love, he should not accept with love the suffering of others!